Do You Dither in Your Job Search?

I looked up the definition of "to dither" before writing this article. It is to be agitated and in a nervous state.

My definition, however, as it relates to a job seeker is that some people will spend many minutes and hours, seeking a way out of looking for a job. It is a neighbor of procrastination.

But "dithering" also can mean, going from one activity to another. For example: Writing down names of people to call about jobs, but never making the calls or putting one's attention onto other things.

All kinds of motions/actions are made to find a job.They all add up to busy work and the active tasks are left out.

How will a person stop this aimlessness and get something done on their own behalf? Setting goals with a definite timeline to achieve them, are what job seekers HAVE to do.

"Dithering" is good for butterflies and birds, but not for job seekers.

Marilyn J. Tellez, M.A., Certified Job & Career Transition Coach--Email: doitnow@nwinfo.net Web site is: www.doitnowcareers.info Phone: (509) 469-3514

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