
For many people the end of a year is a time of increased stress.
Instead of relaxing and unwinding from a busy year, the pressures of buying gifts, travelling or spending time with long lost relatives makes it a difficult time.
In our household for example, my 4 year-old daughter's excitement levels have been taken to new highs by performing in front of 800 people as a 'teddy bear' in her first ever ballet concert.
Loaded on top of this was her Kindergarten show, this time performing the role of an 'angel' in a Nativity Play, and counting down the days to our four-week trip to Tasmania.
Just yesterday, she woke at 5.15 am and started packing her bags to go. I smiled when she told me she had packed 8 videos for the trip!
Now I'm really looking forward to our holiday and spending time at Freycinet Lodge on the Island's east-coast, feeling the crunch of pristine white sand under my feet at Wineglass Bay, watching the sun set over the pink granite outcrops of 'The Hazards' and tasting the fresh salty tang of locally grown pacific oysters.
But it won't be easy getting ready, packing and then travelling for 12 hours with full luggage and 2 children under 5 years old.
Add to this the fact we're staying with relatives. So what is the solution?
Here are my Top 5 Ways to make End of Year Holidays a relaxing and stress free time.
1. CLARIFY AND SHARE EXPECTATIONS.
Be aware of the extra pressure on families at this time of the year. Clarify with family members what each individual wants from the break. For me, it may be reading all those business books I didn't get time for during the year. I know for my wife, it is getting extra help looking after the children and spending time together as a family. How can both these needs be met? Use these three questions to clarify the needs and wants of others at this busy time. What do you want? What do you dread? What will put a smile on your face?
2. PLAN, MONITOR AND BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR BUDGET.
Money issues can be a big source of conflict at the end of the year. It is meant to be a time for gift giving and sharing but it can get out of hand. Set a budget for gifts, entertainment and food. Stick to the budget and monitor it regularly so you don't overspend.
3. DELEGATE RESPONSIBILITY AND SHARE TASKS.
You can't do everything all of the time. Many people strive for perfection at the end of the year because of the many positive and festive images portrayed by the media. Be realistic and work out what you can and can't achieve. Ask for and get help. Be prepared to give up some control to share the load.
4. COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS.
The end of the year, and in Western cultures Christmas, is an emotional time. Share your feelings of joy with others. If you're feeling stressed, let others know how you feel and ask for support.
5. KEEP UP YOUR REGULAR ROUTINE.
Keep doing the things you have enjoyed doing during the year, like exercise and eating well. Take time out for yourself and your family.
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