
What is your reaction when you are in situations where you hear these kind of messages? What sort of tone and atmosphere do you think they create?
These words and phrases are becoming more common-place language amongst managers and are indicators of how things are done in their business. They are also indicative of the growing number of leaders who believe that running a business is like waging war or engaging in a military operation.
Using analogy, metaphor and strong language are all helpful in getting a message across. However, they become unhelpful when they aggressively drive the ways in which communications and interactions are carried out.
Let's examine the effect of operating with a warlike and military mindset.
First, it encourages people to adopt a consistently aggressive stance and set of behaviours. In a war one side supposedly wins and the other loses. Yet as we know, history has often proved this to be a fallacy. In business a win/lose approach generally creates fear, anger, frustration and often the desire for payback. Do you want these feelings to be rife amongst your managers, staff, suppliers and customers? A leader who adopts this way of thinking is also giving permission for his people to attack others, ignore them, abuse, bully, manipulate, and put others down. When this becomes a pattern, the outcome is usually characterised by a growing culture of hostility, inappropriate competition, resentment, lack of trust, overcritical feedback, excessive control and poor decision making. This is exactly what happens when a military group becomes riddled with abuse.
Second, at a personal level, individuals are encouraged to view others as the enemy. Too often this becomes people from other areas of the business rather than uniting and focussing energies on a goal, or what competitors are doing. How often do you hear, "It's those idiots in HR who are slowing us down" or "IT are a law unto themselves."?
These conflicts often prevent a business from supplying the type of service the customers need and so external relationships become more difficult. One situation where this is most acutely observed at its worst occurs where buyers or sellers talk of "screwing the b******* for every last penny." What do you think it's like to be "forced to give ground," when you are already struggling to maintain a foothold or it seems like you are "in retreat?
Let's imagine a day in the life of "W", our archetypal warmonger, so we really understand why this situation is a disaster. Leaving the "home" battlefield in the harassed hands of a suffering lieutenant, "W" is drawn into conflict with every other commuter who is perceived as delivering "hostile fire." ...red-faced and pumping adrenaline. On arrival at work, "W" is fired up to give the team a roasting for this week's performance. Having dispatched these shamefaced privates to the front line, "W" can now beat off the demands and advances of several colleagues and seek out malevolent customers whose payments are a day overdue. Now on a roll, "W" stalks or pursues departments who have not supplied the figures or information "needed yesterday". "W" even has time to offer the bosses advice on the right tactics for the way forward. It's been a good day for "W" as he steels himself for the next campaign, unaware of the trail of destruction in his wake.....
Do you want to be another "W"? What is it like having to work with or for him?
What can you do to create a different scenario?
Start with your own thinking and mindset. You will only create a constructive environment for yourself and others if you believe that life and work can be joyous, fun, stimulating and challenging ? and you want to be part of it. Consider before you attend your next meeting, are you thinking: "this is going to be difficult, a fight for survival, where I can't afford to give anything away and I must battle for everything". OR a much more helpful alternative, "this will stretch me and I can rise to the challenge by convincing others that what I bring is useful and we can all get some of what we want".
Your attitude needs to be supported in your overall approach. If you adopt an optimistic, constructive, interested, caring and honest approach, it becomes positively contagious for others. Most people respond to leaders who are forward looking, straight talking, focussed on positive outcomes and willing to include others in their vision and decisions. Added to this, is the ability to use a range of helpful strategies, dependent on the situation and the people involved. Ask yourself at any point, how do you need to approach these people to get their commitment to the vision, make the most of their thinking, and deal with the problems we need to resolve?
Finally it will be your day-to-day behaviour towards others and their perception of your impact that will confirm their response and position. By developing a complete toolkit of complementary behaviours which you can use consciously and in the right place, you will increase your positive impact and success rate.
Based on our research and experience, we strongly recommend you use combinations of the following styles, as appropriate:
Co-written by Bruce Hoverd and Graham Yemm. Graham is a founding partner of Solutions 4 Training Ltd. During his years as a consultant he has worked with a variety of major companies in the U.K., Europe, USA, the Middle East and Russia in Sales, People and Management Skills. He has had many years of experience tailoring programmes to address organisational issues around sales, account management, negotiations, sales management and customer service ? especially focusing on the communication and personal skills aspects. Graham is a Master Practitioner of NLP and an accredited trainer for the LAB profile programme ? "Words that Change Minds". His personal enjoyment comes from helping individuals to take more responsibility for their own actions? freeing them to feel they can make more choices about their lives. Contact, http://solutions4training.com or call +44 1483 480656
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