What I Do Is Not Who I Am... The Networking Factor

Ah, the personal touch that continues to make a big difference for the better in our lives and the lives of those who have an opportunity to experience a personal touch from us.

If networking and effective communication are centered on other people, can we effectively network or communicate without the help of other people?

For the sake of argument, let us define networking as: finding out what another individual wants or needs and then fulfilling the want or need of that other person.

People want to know that their existence makes a difference.

The term often used 'dissed' meaning an individual feels disrespected by another might seem petty to us but it is usually very real to the individual complaining.

An example, my friend Bill a Plummer who is financially set for many years to come doesn't always get properly acknowledged. We all realize that there is nothing we can do without the help of other people. Yet, in Bill's profession he is not always highly respected. This is because society has taught us to value the title of the individual and not the individual.

Let us take responsibility for going back to the basics and simply treating people like we ourselves would like to be treated. We will never know who can help us until that time comes.

Really, it doesn't take much imagination for us to think of ways a Plummer can make us look good or bad and we know bad can be real ugly when it comes to our toilet and stopped up kitchen sink. All of a sudden Bill is Mr. Bill, sir.

Bill may not remember what you said to him, what you did to him, but Bill will remember how you made him feel. If you didn't know that Bill Gates was Bill Gates of Microsoft, how would you treat Bill? Bill the Plummer today could easily be Bill the owner of a multi-billion dollar enterprise tomorrow!

By the way, where is Bill? I think Bill was president of the United States for a while? he sure made people feel good. My guess, he'll always have a position or venture of choice!

By the way, "Everyone is important" is the Networking Factor!

www.101NetworkingCommandments.com

Ms. Smallwood-McKenzie is a Networking Coach in Los Angeles and she helps small businesses and professionals to expand their political, business, and social bases. She is the Author of "The 101 Commandments of Networking: Common Sense But Not Common Practice." Enjoy Free Preview compliments of http://www.101NetworkingCommandments.com or visit Amazon.com to read Customer Reviews of this guide. This networking guide is available wherever fine books are sold. Janice's e-mail address is ConfirmedCoach@netscape.net

In The News:

Yahoo! News: Top Stories

Amy Vollmar, 43, from Bowling Green, Ohio, a worker for Chrysler for the past 24 years, listens during a Chrysler rally at the Jeep plant in Toledo, Ohio, Wednesday, Dec. 3, 2008.    (AP Photo/Madalyn Ruggiero)AP - The United Auto Workers said Wednesday it is willing to change its contracts with U.S. automakers and accept delayed payments of billions of dollars to a union-run health care trust to do its part to help the struggling companies secure $34 billion in government loans.



A bomb disposal squad officer, center, takes a suspicious box to the police station after diffusing a bomb at Chhatrapati Shivaji train station in Mumbai, India, Wednesday, Dec. 3, 2008. Police on Wednesday discovered leftover explosives hidden in a bag in Mumbai's main train station, a stunning new example of botched security after the deadly rampage that left the government open to accusations it missed warnings and bungled its response. (AP Photo)AP - Police searching a mound of baggage abandoned amid the carnage of the attack on Mumbai's main train station found two bombs Wednesday — nearly a week after they were left there by gunmen — in a stunning new example of the botched security that has become a major issue in India since the three-day siege.



In this Dec. 1, 2008 file photo, Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin, center, waves to a crowd during a campaign stop for Sen. Saxby Chambliss, R-Ga,  in Savannah, Ga.  Palin has added to her financial disclosure forms two free trips that she took nearly two years ago but failed to report.   (AP Photo/Stephen Morton, File)AP - Gov. Sarah Palin has added to her financial disclosure forms two free trips that she took nearly two years ago but failed to report. Palin, who was Republican presidential candidate John McCain's running mate, made the disclosures last month, but after Election Day when she and McCain lost to Barack Obama and Joe Biden. The trips were first revealed in a story by The Associated Press in October.



Rev. Edwin Bacon, of All Saints Episcopal Church, delivers a sermon in support of same sex marriages Sunday, Nov. 9, 2008, in Pasadena, Calif. Demonstrations on Saturday to protest passage of an anti-gay marriage ballot initiative were the largest of several marches that followed Tuesday's passage of Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriages and overturning the state Supreme Court decision that legalized such unions in May. (AP Photo/Gus Ruelas)AP - Theological conservatives upset by liberal views of U.S. Episcopalians and Canadian Anglicans formed a rival North American province Wednesday, in a long-developing rift over the Bible that erupted when Episcopalians consecrated the first openly gay bishop.



Sen. Saxby Chambliss, R-Ga.,  gestures as he speaks during  an election-night party Tuesday, Dec. 2, 2008 in Atlanta. Chambliss defeated Democrat Jim Martin in a run off. (AP Photo/John Bazemore)AP - A double digit win in Georgia's U.S. Senate runoff could make Saxby Chambliss a star in a Republican party hungry for fresh leadership.



This undated photo provided by the Tracy Police Department shows Caren Ramirez. Police were seeking Ramirez on suspicion of participating in alleged abuse against her 17 year-old nephew who showed up Monday, Dec. 1, 2008 at a northern California gym with a chain locked to his ankle. (AP Photo/Tracy Police Department)AP - The aunt and one-time guardian of an emaciated and shackled 17-year-old has been arrested, as police tried to determine how she knew the couple accused of holding the teen against his will for nearly a year. Caren Ramirez was arrested Tuesday in Berkeley, a day after the boy walked into a gym and begged managers to hide him. He was covered in soot, had a chain on his foot and was wearing only boxer briefs.



This X-ray image provided by NASA, and captured by the German ROSAT satellite in the 1990s, shows the remnant of a supernova that was observed in 1572 by Danish astronomer Tycho Brahe. A new study explores the nature of that star explosion. (AP Photo/NASA)AP - More than 400 years after Danish astronomer Tycho Brahe challenged established wisdom about the heavens by analyzing a strange new light in the sky, scientists say they've finally nailed down just what he saw.



This undated file photo provided by the Illinois Department of Corrections shows Jennifer Hudson's estranged brother-in-law William Balfour. Balfour has been arrested Monday, Dec. 1, 2008 in Illinois in the deaths of the singer's mother, brother and 7-year-old nephew. (AP Photo/Illinois Department of Corrections)AP - A prosecutor alleged Wednesday that Jennifer Hudson's brother-in-law killed three family members because he was angry his estranged wife — the singer's sister — was dating another man.



AP - The one that didn't get away held an unlikely surprise for a Texas man. The blue-stoned class ring of Joe Richardson, engraved with his name, turned up inside an 8-pound bass 21 years after he lost it while fishing on Lake Sam Rayburn.

In this Aug. 31, 2008, file photo, Boston Red Sox's Dustin Pedroia walks back to the dugout during a baseball game against the Chicago White Sox at Fenway Park in Boston. The Red Sox have agreed to terms with the 2008 AL Most Valuable Player on a six-year contract, the team announced on Wednesday, Dec. 3, 2008. (AP Photo/Winslow Townson)AP - Dustin Pedroia has a Rookie of the Year award, an MVP, a Gold Glove and Silver Slugger and, of course, a World Series ring. And now he's got the big-bucks contract befitting one of the most decorated young players in baseball. The Red Sox second baseman, who earned $457,000 last season while winning the AL Most Valuable Player award, agreed Wednesday to a $40.5 million, six-year contract that could keep in Boston through at least 2014.



New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson (R) listens as US President-elect Barack Obama speaks to the media after introducing Richardson as his nominee for U.S. commerce secretary during a news conference in Chicago December 3, 2008. (UNITED STATES) (Reuters)Reuters - President-elect Barack Obama said on Wednesday struggling automakers have put forward a "more serious" restructuring proposal to Congress but withheld judgment on the plans until hearings are held.



Trading specialists work on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange, December 3, 2008. (Chip East/Reuters)Reuters - Record declines in the vast U.S. and European service sectors and more grim U.S. employment news on Wednesday sparked fear of an economic "free fall," setting up another round of aggressive interest rate cuts.



Students of the Pakistani Islamist party Jammat-e-Islami chant anti-Indian slogans during a protest against the Indian government's claims that Pakistan-based militants were behind the Mumbai attacks, during a rally in Islamabad, December 3, 2008. (Mian Khursheed/Reuters)Reuters - U.S. Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice pressed Pakistan to cooperate fully in the probe into the Mumbai attacks but she also warned India against any action that could stoke regional conflict.



Chrysler assembly worker Leroy Feltz works on a 2009 Jeep Wrangler at the Toledo Supplier Park Jeep plant in Toledo, Ohio December 3, 2008. (Rebecca Cook/Reuters)Reuters - All options were on the table on Wednesday as congressional committees scrutinized auto company restructuring proposals and an urgent appeal for $34 billion in aid ahead of make-or-break hearings.



The U.S. Senate and Congressional Democratic leadership attends a Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee/Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee election watch party in Washington November 4, 2008. From L-R are: DSCC Chairman Sen. Charles Schumer (D-NY), House Majority Leader Steny Hoyer (D-MD), Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid (D-NV), DCCC Chairman Christopher Van Hollen (D-MD), and Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi (D-CA). (Larry Downing/Reuters)Reuters - Senate Democrats will be able to do plenty over the next two years -- despite falling just short of their goal of winning a majority big enough to end Republican procedural roadblocks.



Treasury Secretary Henry Paulson speaks at a news conference at the Treasury Department in Washington, November 25, 2008. (Jason Reed/Reuters)Reuters - Treasury Secretary Henry Paulson is weighing whether to ask Congress for the remaining $350 billion of the financial bailout fund, with White House aides approaching President-elect Barack Obama's transition team about the idea, an Obama aide said on Wednesday.



Reuters - Imprisoned former WorldCom Inc chief Bernard Ebbers has joined the list of high-profile corporate defendants petitioning for clemency in the final days of President George W. Bush's term in office.

A U.S soldier stands guard during a graduation ceremony at Al-Furat Iraqi Police Training Center in Baghdad December 2, 2008. (Saad Shalash/Reuters)Reuters - A string of departures by the U.S. military's allies in Iraq is turning into an exodus as violence subsides and the end of a U.N. mandate permitting their deployment to the country approaches.



A map locating the main terrorist attacks in Mumbai. India on Wednesday warned that all options were open in dealing with Pakistan after last week's attacks on Mumbai, as the United States pressured Islamabad to show urgent cooperation with the probe.(AFP/Graphic)AFP - India on Wednesday warned that all options were open in dealing with Pakistan after last week's attacks on Mumbai, as the United States pressured Islamabad to show urgent cooperation with the probe.



Norwegian Prime Minister Jens Stoltenberg speaks in Oslo City Hall during the signing of a treaty banning cluster bombs. Norway -- which played a key role in hammering out the worldwide ban on using, producing, transferring and stockpiling cluster munitions -- was the first country to sign the Convention on Cluster Munitions.(AFP/Scanpix/Lise Aserud)AFP - Some 100 nations put their names Wednesday to a landmark treaty banning cluster bombs, amid calls for major arms producers such as China, Russia and the United States to join them.




Successfully Meeting And Greeting - Ten Strategies For Getting Off To A Good Start

A day in the life of every businessperson is made up of... Read More

Why Cant I Start A Conversation With You?

One out of every ten Americans has a fear of talking to... Read More

Networking Skills: Arguing in Context

If you're fond of a good debate, you know how to annihilate... Read More

Talk Isnt Cheap

The most successful organizations have good communication skills. Survey after survey bears... Read More

Alliances: More Than A One Way Relationship

What is the biggest advantage of forming an alliance?Everyone has their own... Read More

8 Ways To Develop Confidence In New Situations

Do you enjoy one-on-one networking, however, the thought of walking into room... Read More

Write It Down!

Why would you want to write information on paper when you have... Read More

Networking: Strangers, Friendship, and Business Growth

You already know that uncomfortable feeling, that knot in your stomach that... Read More

Unforgettable First Impressions Part 4: Become a Social Gift Giver

Do you ever wonder why single people give flowers, wine, candy or... Read More

Are You Leveraging Your Business Network?

Just yesterday I received an email from a colleague telling me her... Read More

Social Networking: A Link To Like Minds

Not all dot-com dreams died when the Internet stock bubble burst.Amazon.com, the... Read More

Where Does That Word Come From?

"Instead of a handshake, I gave Toby a high-five to break the... Read More

Are You Building Relationships Online?

How's your relationship?I'm not prying into your personal life, so no need... Read More

How to Get Ahead in Your Career

Bigger Better Deal. That's what everyone always hopes will come along. And... Read More

Communication Is A 2-Way Street (The Networking Factor)

The Personal Touch 1There is a simple art to networking and the... Read More

10 Effective Ways to Remember Names

Sigmund Freud says "a person's name is the single context of human... Read More

The Power of Word of Mouth

Most of us remember the commercial that said, "I told two friends,... Read More

How NOT to Waste Your Time Networking

Ever wonder if networking, referral groups, and conferences are a waste of... Read More

How to Get More Visibility, Increase Your Influence, and Get More Referrals

Earlier today I was helping a client develop a better strategy to... Read More

Social Network Software

My neighbor ? a lovely man I've known, and have had social... Read More

Five Steps for Expanding Your Customer Base with Guerilla Networking

As a single company, it is impossible to provide your customers with... Read More

Lesson 69 - When Networking Events Fail

The StoryIn a quest to create strategic alliances, coalitions, and partnerships, we... Read More

Value-Added Network

A value-added network can be achieved through explicit actions to develop, expand,... Read More

Test Your Networking Know-How

Let's test your knowledge on networking:1)The best definition of networking is: a)... Read More

34 Power Affirmations for Networking with the Affluent

Here are 34 affirmations I have created after studying the book "Networking... Read More

How to be Known

Why business relationships are formed with certain people?If you go to a... Read More

Discover Your Own Source Of Business Leads

Generating new business leads is critical in your success, no matter what... Read More

Lesson 14 - Whats In A Handshake?

The StoryAs a child growing up, one of the many life lessons... Read More

Strategic Networking: Take the Shortest Path to Success

Do you use Ryze or LinkedIn to promote your web based business?... Read More

Sharpen Your Business Networking Skill To Grow Your Small Business

Most people become lax at maintaining their professional business network when they've... Read More

Increase Your Sales by 30% Using Internet Collaboration Networks

Small businesses are really excluded from the global economySmall businesses from many... Read More

How to Organize a Successful Bad Sweater Party

"Hey Scott, would you like to go to a Bad Sweater Party... Read More

Where to Find a Cash Windfall of $10,000 - $1,000,000 - You Never Knew You Had

There is a rather famous true story called "Acres of Diamonds".It is... Read More

How to Avoid Falling Asleep Behind the Conversational Wheel

Think about the last time you feel asleep behind the wheel. Dangerous,... Read More

Why Bother With Social Networking Sites Like LinkedIn?

Q: I think I understand the value of networking as well as... Read More

The Quest for Passive Income

Passive Income, residuals, royalties three ways to get paid multiple times for... Read More

5 Ways to Wow People Who Wear Nametags

People wear nametags more often than you think. The majority of retail... Read More

Acknowledging Referrals! What?s in It For You?

I grew up in a household where saying thank you was a... Read More

The Promotion Factor: Seven Strategies to Promote Yourself and Your Business by Playing Golf

Effective business promotion is more powerful than advertising. Using golf is one... Read More

Networking to a New Life

Research shows that talking to strangers -- not people in your comfort... Read More

Building Business Relationships in a Roomful of Strangers

You approach a stranger at an association meeting or industry conference with... Read More

Networking Know How

Networking, even to a seasoned professional, can seem intimidating or scary at... Read More

What I Do Is Not Who I Am... The Networking Factor

Ah, the personal touch that continues to make a big difference for... Read More

The Festive Season: Your Networking Opportunity

The festive season is a great time to sharpen and hone your... Read More

Networking

Networking: Is it who you know or what you know that counts?Who... Read More

Networking Know-how

Successful networking requires the understanding from the get-go that it is about... Read More

Did You Market Yourself Today?

"If you build a better mouse trap - the world will beat... Read More